A Slice of Coaching Life: It's About Be-Having

LeCoaching helps you take an inquisitive look at who you are being and what you are having in your life. You may want to be peaceful, yet what you have is busyness. The coaching process integrates the being and the having, so you are authentically and effortlessly be-having.

Here's an example of how it works:

Coach:	I see you want to be peaceful, yet you're having busyness.
Client:	Oh... yes. I am. [dawning awareness]
Coach:	Does having less busyness mean you get to be more peaceful?
Client:	Of course, but I'm the only one who can do this right.
Coach:	Sounds like you're more committed to busyness than peace.
Client:	[Pauses] Maybe I am. I just don't know how to get unbusy.
Coach:	Tell me about a time when you were fully at peace.
Client:	That's easy. I was up on a mountain peak in the Sierras.
Coach:	How are you at peace on this peak?
Client:	I'm just seeing a huge expanse of space. I got to the top at my own pace. I'm grateful for the strength of my body and all the beauty.
Coach:	It sounds like the peak of peace.
Client:	Yeah. Peace Peak.
Coach:	I'm noticing you're talking slower and more softly up there. You somehow seem lighter, like you could float off the mountain.
Client:	No worries to hold me down.
Coach:	From Peace Peak, what do you see about your life's busyness?
Client:	It's all small and far away. Like background noise. I feel like most everything will take care of itself without me.
Coach:	That sounds radical. What are the radical possibilities?
Client:	Well, I could quit. I could stop doing my staff's work.
Coach:	What's the Peace Peak choice for you right now?
Client:	Well, quitting would make me crazy. I suppose it's not doing everyone else's work.
Coach:	What part of their work could you let go of that would bring you the greatest peace?
Client:	This is really hard for me. I have no idea where to start.
Coach:	Yes. You're used to holding this work boulder up on your own. How committed are you to getting this boulder off your back?
Client:	Very!
Coach:	What do you want to do with this back-breaking boulder?
Client:	[Laughs] Roll it off my mountain!
Coach:	As you watch it roll away, what's the impact on you?
Client:	Boy, do I feel happy! And free!
Coach:	And others?
Client:	They're scrambling out of the way; they're a bit afraid.
Coach:	Is that the impact you want to have?
Client:	No. I don't want anyone to be afraid.
Coach:	What will you communicate to others about your intentions?
Client:	I'll let them know that I intend to create more peace for myself.
Coach:	And that would be for the sake of what?
Client:	Being sane; being a better human being; being focused.
Coach:	So what's the big boulder at work for you?
Client:	Interruptions. Constant interruptions.
Coach:	How are you going to roll it off the peak?
Client:	I'm going to post "Do not interrupt. Peace in Progress." on the inside of my door .
Coach:	Yeah! Will you also draw Peace Peak on there too?
Client:	Sure!
Coach:	What else?
Client:	I'll ask my assistant to hold calls for one hour a day.
Coach:	What is your expectation from doing that?
Client:	I'll use the time to catch up.
Coach:	I want to challenge you to have all your priorities reflect your intention of peace. Say "No" to busy work and "Yes" to peace work. In your daily planning, I request that you ask yourself: "What will bring the deepest peace?"
Client:	Okay. Yes, I'll take your challenge.
Coach:	From Peace Peak you truly have a command of your self — I can hear it in your voice. And you have a broad perspective up there, too. Can you take a fun assignment?
Client:	Sure.
Coach:	Notice how many peace pipes you smoke with others this week.
Client:	[Laughs with coach] Okay.
Coach:	How will I know how you're doing this week on your assignments?
Client:	I'll email you by Friday.
Coach:	Okay, then — go in peace.